It will take years to know who your real friends are...My friend has just retired from civil service in JKR.I called him a week ago and told him in a few months time,he will know who are his actual friends;many will leave him because he is not in position of power over their projects.This is what I categorised as 'contract friends'-friendship for business only.
In my case,I experienced two times-the first when I resigned from JKR as Assistant Director(1984) and the second when I resigned from TDM Berhad as CEO(1989).Now, I know who are my real friends when I am doing business on my own.
Let me qoute from Paulo Coelho from his book Manuscript Found in Accra:
Frienship is like a river,it flows around rocks,adapts itself to valleys and mountains,occasionally turns into a pool until the hollow in the ground is full and it can continue on its way.Just as the river never forget that its goal is the sea,so friendship never forgets that its only reason for existing is to love other people.
At my age,I am very selective who I want to make friends and be their friends.Bad experience taught me to be more careful with friends than with strangers.Yes indeed,friendship is like a river-it keeps flowing all the time...